Funeral Homes Prey Amid Difficult Times
You DO NOT HAVE TO BUY your family flowers from the funeral home! Corporate Owned Funeral Homes will strongly suggest that they can take care of ordering your casket spray and other flowers and include it in the bill. When corporate owned funeral homes “arrange” for flowers for the casket etc. they take anywhere from a 25% – 30% cut either off the top of the price you paid or there are less flowers than what you actually paid for. Their “preferred” florists are those that fill these orders for the funeral home feel that they are “caught in a trap”. Since cremation has become a more popular, less expensive alternative, funeral homes have had to find another source to maintain and increase their profit margins. (Ex. a $300.00 casket spray = approx. $90.00 that the funeral homes have kept for themselves.)
Secondly, do not purchase sympathy flowers on the Funeral homes web sites or links on the obituary page. Prices to order through these affiliates are more than double what you would pay at your local florist. The funeral homes are again getting kick backs with these orders being placed online.
Not only can your local florist tell you what is REALLY available at the time of the services (besides a funeral director promising you that it will look just like the picture in the book), but your floral designer can create something specific and special for your loved one. *
Etiquette Advice Expert Rebecca Cole suggests this: It’s never easy comforting someone who has lost a loved one, but flowers can say what is often difficult to express in words. Flowers are usually sent to the funeral home to provide warmth and beauty to the service. If a service is not planned, grief experts recommend sending condolences to the bereaved person’s home.
The phrase “In Lieu of Flowers” can often be found in death notices and obituaries. In most instances, this phrase is used as a convenient, polite way to meet requests for memorial contributions. However, most people don’t understand how important flowers are to the bereavement process.
Sympathy flowers have been a part of funeral and memorial traditions in nearly every culture throughout history. In ancient cultures, floral and herb essences were used to anoint the bodies of the deceased and aromatic flowers and greens were displayed.
Flowers add warmth to the service and provide the visible emotional support the bereaved need during this time.
If you’ve ever been to a funeral that is void of flowers, it is a cold and somber environment. A funeral without flowers is a sad, lonely, cold place.
Flowers honor the deceased’s life, express sympathy is a heartfelt way (providing a way to be there even if you physically can’t be), and provide a warm, pleasant diversion — something to talk about during the visitation and the service.
Often time grieving family members take home green plants as a long-lasting remembrance of their loved one.
Flowers are something that can be there when you can’t be, and we all know how they can express our feelings in so many ways.
Flowers can be a great source of comfort to those grieving the loss of a loved one, and should be regarded as an important gesture.
Recent research indicates that sympathy flowers may not only brighten and warm a funeral or memorial service setting, but also have a positive impact on the emotional well-being of the bereaved.
A behavioral research study conducted at Harvard by Nancy Etcoff, Ph.D., reveals some of the calming, fortifying feelings flowers create. The study reveals that flowers feed compassion and chase away anxiety and worries. Research participants lived with fresh flowers for just a few days and reported increases in feelings of compassion and kindness for others. Overall, people simply felt less negative after being around flowers.
Many services are now being held at home. Sometimes called a “Celebration of Life”, a local florist can assist you in sending the perfect flowers to help remember the life of a loved one. Your care and compassion is conveyed with softness and sincerity through these beautiful flowers.
Remember, only your local florist tell you what is REALLY available at the time of the services (besides a funeral director promising you that it will look just like the picture in the book). Your floral designer can create something specific and special for your loved one.
Visit ROADRUNNER FLORIST for more custom designed floral arrangements that are appropriate for a funeral or Celebration of Life.
*Written with the help of Tim’s P Lawing, Aifd, Tim’s Touch Flowers & Gifts, Lexington SC